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Why “Inner Vows” don’t work

Have you ever made an “Inner Vow”?

  • “I will never be like him”
  • “I will never cheat on my spouse”
  • “I would never do that”
  • “I will never treat my friends that way”

Typically, promises like these represent a passionate attempt to hold fast to certain values or commitments.

They also all but guarantee the opposite outcome.

Why? False security. When I make an “Inner Vow” like this, I’m actually just attempting to secure a certain outcome. When I then trust that imaginary security, I rely on it and become blind to the risk. Now let me ask you: who is in greater danger?

  • The man who vows to never be caught unawares
  • The man who knows he could

My advice: Don’t make promises to yourself or anyone else. Promises are the blustery understudy of actions. Make choices.


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